While I love my job and my paychecks, I hate my hours. The number one reason I hate working night shift:
3-4 whole nights a week that I don't get to spend with this amazing man that I get to call my husband
He is, without a doubt, my favorite person. I love spending time with him and long for quiet nights on the couch watching tv, cooking dinner, or taking walks through our neighborhood with him. I suppose my schedule does force us to truly appreciate the 4 nights a week we do get to spend together. But it's still hard to leave for work knowing I could spend the evening with him. As Summer begins, I find it even harder to leave when I know there are so many fun things we could be doing together.
My coworkers have asked me why I don't like night shift. I always have the same answer, "I miss my husband." They laugh and usually respond with, "Oh, well you're a newlywed, that feeling will soon pass." It makes me sad every time I hear someone say that or mention how they look forward to spending half of their nights away from their husbands. I'm not naive, I know as the years go by people typical want time away from their spouses and don't miss them as much. But could it be possible to never have what we feel now, that "newlywed feeling" disappear? I hope so. I may hate spending nights away from my husband, but I love even more that I have someone that I love so much that I miss him when I'm not with him and long to be with him whenever I can. 8 months in and my feelings for my husband are as strong as ever. I hope and pray to feel the same way 10 years, even 50 years from now. Who says we can't stay in the "newlywed" phase forever?
-VABelle
Amen, sister! I feel the same way. Hubby and I ride to work together, as I've mentioned before, and on days when our schedule's don't allow it, we are missing each other so badly by the time night time rolls around. Good for you for keeping that newlywed bliss alive. We are right around the same anniversary schedule as y'all (a year in august) and I feel like we got married yesterday. I remember the day so vividly (I think I always will) And lucky you to be around babies all day! I'm sure that doesn't help the "baby fever" one bit :)
ReplyDeleteFirst off ... 49 babies!! In 24 hours!! That's crazy ... send some of them our way! Our census is low...
ReplyDeleteAlso, I hated night shift, partly for the same reason. Maybe someday soon you'll be able to go to days. As for the newlywed feeling - it fades, a bit. But for us, it didn't fade in a bad way, but was instead replaced by something that runs deeper than butterflies. I still miss Mark when he's not there. I would definitely hate to go back to nights, because I would miss sleeping with him at night. Just because the initial excitement and ohmygoshwe'remarried! feeling fades, it doesn't mean that the love has to as well. I never look FORWARD to spending time away from Mark. I try to change the tone of my workplace when people start talking like that, and talk about how much I love my hubby, etc. People ask how long we've been married ... and they're always surprised when I say 3 years. Marriage is what you make of it. So just make it a point to not let the love die, and it won't :)
49 babies!!!!! Holy cow!
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine being away from Nick 4 nights a week, I'm sure that must be incredibly hard at times. Althought, if I'm being entirely honest 1 night a week with the remote to myself and uncriticized junk food for dinner might be nice! : )
Look at your Mr in that second photo posing like a GQ model! Love it.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how you do it... I am dreading this summer when I am in school and will prob only see my hubs for an hour or two at night! Wah!
Preach on, sister! Loved this post. And you deserve a medal for four nights away. I would be a mess, and not a hot one!
ReplyDeleteThis is sweet. I know what you mean, we have been married for 1 and a half years and older people are super discouraging when I talk about how "happy I am." It's almost like I want to tell them to shut the hell up because just let me figure it out on my own, you know?! I am happy now and I hope and think we will be happy for much longer. I try to understand where they are coming from, but the fact is we ARE newlyweds and should act like it! So don't let them bring you down. And I am sure it's so hard that you are away from your hubby for those nights, but wow - you helped bring 49 lives into the world!! Amazing. I have never done anything that important at work, that's for sure. Good for you :)... sorry for my rant, btw. bitter old married people annoy me ;)
ReplyDeleteAmen to that! I don't know why people have to assume that a marriage gets worse as it goes on. I'm on year three and it's the best so far!
ReplyDeleteI have worked the ER nightshift for 8 years! and I have been married for 17. It sucks...so I quit last Friday...feels pretty good so far :o)
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